1. Care less about what others think.
The minute you allow someone elses opinions to affect your way of life, is the minute you surrender your ability to be authentically yourself. Your self-expression is one thing in this crazy world that you DO have control over. Be the person YOU want to be, do the things YOU want to do, and conquer the fear of questioning what will happen when you do.
2. Accept that there will be someone better than you.
Once you accept that you wont always be the best, youll be able to become your best-self. You dont have to be better than everyone else you just have to accept your best for what it is.
3. Know that your best effort will always be enough.
You may not always be THE best, but you can be YOUR best. It inherently feels good to work hard at something that pays off in your favor, but that wont always be the case. Accept that sometimes even hard work wont obtain your desired results, but knowing that you did all you possibly could should give you feeling of accomplishment no matter the outcome. Let yourself feel accomplished when you deserve it.
4. Stop crediting your success to luck.
Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity. Whether or not Roman philosopher, Seneca, actually said this, it speaks enormous amounts of truth when it comes to downplaying your success. Your achievements have little to do with luck, and greatly to do with the amount of work and determination you inject into life every day. You earned the amount of success you receive, so be proud of it!
5. Allow yourself to fail.
We often think of success and failure as opposites, but its very rare to have one without the other. Failure is on the ingredient list for success; its in the recipe. Stir in a quarter cup of failure, one tablespoon of confusion and doubt, a bit of salt and pepper, bake at 450 and voila, youve got something that eventually tastes like victory. Its okay to fail as long as you let failure be the catalyst of growth.
6. Realize that positive affirmations will only work if you believe in them.
You can look in the mirror and proclaim self love 100 times a day, but unless you actually believe in your affirming words, they wont make you feel any better. Dont just reiterate positive affirmations, believe them.
7. Let life happen naturally, and not according to a timeline.
Life doesnt always pan out the way we planned, and benchmarks usually adjust according toeveryone elses life and not our own. Its okay if youre not engaged by 26, married by 30, or popping out your first-born before 35. Not everyones life will happen in a linear fashion, but when you allow yourself to embrace living in a zig-zag rather than the average straight line, youll find its a hell of a lot easier to breathe.
8. Be kind to your body.
Everything you put into your body directly impacts how you feel, emotionally and physically, but you shouldnt only treat your body well in terms of nutrition. Be kind to your body, dont hate on it like its your least favorite political candidate. Not everyone fully loves every part of themselves, and we all have insecurities, but focus on the parts of yourself you do like, whether theyre physical or not. Your body gets you through life each day so show it more love than hate.
9. Spend time with people who give you as much happiness as you give them.
Dont lend all of your positive energy to someone who doesnt appreciate it. When it comes to relationships, platonic or romantic, effort should be a balanced scale. You cant spend all of your time trying to make someone happy if they dont bring a sufficient amount of happiness to your life in return. Be around people who love you unconditionally instead of people who take your love for granted.